Change is a necessary part of life. We are changing constantly from before the time we are born to the time we die. We can not escape change. The question becomes: Are we changing for the better or are we changing for the worse?
We live in a world that makes it easy for us to change for the worse. From the minute we are born there are dangers that threaten our well being in the long run. One of the first threats may be an inadequate diet. Inadequate diet includes toxins in our food (e.g., trans-fats, high fructose corn syrup, glyphosate), the Standard American Diet or SAD diet, and too many processed foods. We really need to eat highly dense nutritious food to give our bodies the fuel it needs to make healthy changes as we grow.
Constant entertainment is another way the world helps us change for the worse. Some entertainment is good. Near constant entertainment is not good. Almost gone are the days when people worried or had true concern about their neighbor. Rare is the occasion that someone invites another family over for dinner. Thinking of and serving others brings fulfilment, joy and comfort. Constant entertainment is self centered and often deprives us of healthy relationships. Some people change into narcissistic entitled brats which change process is constantly being reinforced though social media and other influences (e.g., some school curriculum, popular movies, video games). Life is a delicate balance of taking care of ourselves and helping others. We can love ourselves and love others.
Families are experiencing the brunt of societal negative changes with more people being born into unwed situations rather than within the traditional family unit. It is becoming increasingly more rare to have a child raised to adulthood by a loving mother and a loving father who have remained together long enough to have grandchildren and great grandchildren. Could all of these factors be a contributor to the increase in anxiety and depression so common in individuals today? Could they also be contributing factors into increase cancer rates, diabetes, Alzheimer's disease, early onset dementia, etc.?
We have choice....
We do not have to be victims of our environments. Fortunately we have the capacity to change. We can always start right now and get on a path that will lead us towards positive change. We can dramatically change our own lifestyle. We can even prevent Alzeheimer’s disease even if we have the genetic predisposition towards an increase risk of Alzeheimer’s disease. We do not have to be over weight, unable to focus, unable to succeed in college, or other negative aspects of our lives. We can choose to be different.
Change will happen. Let’s change for the better! The following are some tips on how to make positive change a reality for you. These tips are not written in stone nor are they all inclusive. You may wish to add some of your own tips that make positive change a reality for you.
Let's change towards the positive!
Know what you want. You may need to analyze several things about you and your current life style and figure out exactly what you want your life to be like. It is rarely too late to change. Will your current life style take you to where you want to be? Do you want to be better educated, have a career, be financially independent, have a healthy body, and/or succeed in a relationship. Figure out what you want and write it down. Make it a written goal or a written list of goals.
Use meditation to help you achieve these goals. With meditation, you do not need to know how to accomplish a goal, all you need is to know what you want. Exactly what you want. A good book that explains meditation and how it can change your life is: Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One by Joseph Dizpensa. It is an awesome book and we highly recommend it. Some people include prayer with their meditation.
Follow a plan. There is a saying that says when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Meditation will lead you to the teacher. The teacher will lead you to a specific plan. When you have the teacher, follow their advice. It does not have to be difficult, just do it. Include in your plan, specific objectives that are tied to dates. The plan should take you from where you are now and take you to where you want to be. For instance, if your goal is to lose weight then a plan would include how much weight is to be lost, the method you will use to lose the weight (e.g., keto diet, weight watchers, vegan) and realistic dates tied to those objectives (e.g., lose 20 lbs in the first 30 days). You may wish to include other objectives that will help you achieve your goal (e.g., increase exercise) as part of your plan. One you have the plan, follow it. When you deviate from it or get distracted, get back on the plan.
Never give up. The only time you give up is when you have arrived at your goal. Then you can focus on something else. In the mean time, there will be challenges, negative people in your life that will attempt to dissuade you and their will be failure. Never give up. You can re-analyze your position, you can learn from your mistakes, you can find a better teacher, you and redesign your plan, but the worse thing to do is to give up. Keep pressing ahead forward. Keep at it until your goal has been reached.
Make your efforts a daily commitment. For example, if you are losing weight, weigh yourself every day. Even after you have lost your desired weight, keep weighing yourself daily. When a certain weight is reached (e.g., 10 pounds over), get back on your plan. Keep meditating for a minimum of 20 minutes a day on your goal. Let others (e.g., positive people) know of your goal and progress. Keep them informed of your progress, your failure and discouragements. Let them also know of your victories, the things you have learned and your successes.
Associate yourself with the winners. Find people that have already accomplished the goal or goals that you have set for yourself. They will provide you with motivation to continue during the tough times. Social media can be a big help with this step. You may wish to include your higher power in this process.
Have an attitude of gratitude and be positive. Change will happen. An attitude of gratitude will make it easier. Positivity will help you deal with the negative factors trying to hold you back. You can even learn to enjoy the journey.